thank you for this very vital information - no sarcasm intended
there are Eurovision posts all over my dash and I still don’t know who won
That’s great. I hope all goes well.
I’m a big fan of letters. Especially when it comes to something like that. I know that sounds kinda lame but it just always worked for me. I’d write a letter and then that would start the actual conversation. Don’t know if that’s your thing but I guess you could start writing it and see where it goes?
I just think it means that maybe it’s more than a crush. Or more special than your past crushes. And maybe you just unconsciously wait to see him again and spend more time with him and that’s why the crush doesn’t fade like it did with past crushes. If you know what I mean?
I think feeling like this sometimes is normal. But at the end of the day you have to realize that there’s no (logical) reason to feel like this. There’s no reason why you should feel embarrassed or awkward or ‘tiny’. You didn’t do anything wrong, other people aren’t superior to you. I know it’s super easy to say that or even think that, when you feel like this. You can tell it to yourself over and over again and it still doesn’t change the way you feel. (Believe me, I’m like that too!) I don’t even know if there’s anything you can do that can really change the way you’re feeling, it’s just something that comes with time and experience, as you become comfortable with who you are and what you want. You just stop caring about what so and so thinks about you and you start caring about being the best person you can possibly be for yourself.
I think out of respect for him and his relationship, you shouldn’t do anything right now. If he was single, I’d say tell him. Of course, if you still want to tell him, then go for it, ultimately it’s his decision anyway. But me personally, I wouldn’t do it while he’s in a relationship. It’s really hard and painful, I know but that’s just the right thing to do. And you don’t wanna feel guilty about anything either, you know?
You know, I have received messages from total strangers, thanking me for helping them and I never knew I did…I never took credit for it either and I never will. But it does mean a lot to me, just hearing that someone feels a little bitter better just because I talked to them - it makes me feel better too when I feel down. And not in a ‘Oh wow I’m so great’ kinda way but in a ‘Oh wow, someone out there appreciates my existence so I will keep existing’ way. If that makes sense. So YES, I think you should definitely give him the letter. It will mean a lot to him and you both. Sometimes it’s so hard to say ‘thank you’ because we don’t want to admit that we were in need of help to begin with and someone helped us. Some people see it as a weakness. I think being able to say ‘You’ve helped me, thank you.’ shows strength. Do it!